For a healthy relationship

February 21, 2011

Laura Do Vale is a trained clinical psychologist as well as a neuro-psychologist with over ten years of practice. She is currently doing her PhD from the University of Estremadura, Spain.

She has practiced at the trauma unit of the Central Hospital of S. Jose; at the oncology unit at Capuchos Hospital, the Children’s Hospital at Dona Estefânia and as the pneumologist at the Hospital of Sta Marta, Lisboa – Portugal. She now works at Welcare Diagnostic & Treatment Center, Muscat.

Talk to one another

Be best friends and speak your mind. Once the initial passion fades, couples normally just stop conversing. If there is no conversation, the relationship will be based only on the physical part. And consequently, it will not last.
Find new subjects to talk every day, even if it's just chatting about your daily routine and other ordinary things. Talking is the key to longevity.

Plan a romantic escape

Organise a trip together for just two of you, even if only for a night or weekend. It will bring a breath of fresh air to your relationship. Furthermore, it will create memories that will last forever.

Offer gifts

Never forget the importance of gifts. And do not worry about spending fortunes on it. The rule is simple: they are tiny little things that ultimately count. A flower, a frame, a magazine, any little thing that shows your affection for your partner. It will make any your love grow.

Make love, well done

This statement is self-fulfilling. Often in a relationship, sex becomes an obstacle. Do not let this happen. Innovate! Do different things. Open your horizons and try new things. Above all, when you make love, concern yourself with who is genuinely you. This will be much better for both of you.

Write little notes

Leave notes where you know he/she is going to find them... under the pillow, in the bathroom mirror, in a backpack or even through e-mail. Keep the courtship alive at every stage of the relationship.

Walk together

A great way to spend time with your love is to go hiking together. Not only will you spend quality time together, it will make you feel good about yourself.

Flirt with one another

When a relationship is established, people tend to believe that they no longer need little flirts. It is as important as remembering the name! It's simple to flirt, even after a few years of being together and being blessed with children.

Have romantic encounters

Take your calendar and plan a romantic time together. Keep your partner's interests in mind while choosing the venue or agenda for such outings. Offer him/her tickets to an exhibition, which you both want to attend. Club this outing with a romantic dinner. Let the children be with your family or babysitter.

Greet each other

Never, I repeat, never forget this, especially if your partner is a woman. Women love compliments. And your greeting should make sense and be honest, never lie. It is better not to speak at all than to tell a lie.

Surprise your partner

Surprise your partner with surprises. Kidnap him/her for a lunch or dinner, get him/her something that he or she is not expecting but would really like to have.
Just put your imagination to work and you will see how these little things can bring you two close.

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