The first day of school


February 21, 2011

Everything is ready for the long awaited first day of class, until anxiety takes over not only the child, but also the parents, and that is where things can get complicated.

The entry of children to school often leads to mixed feelings among parents. This is despite being aware and proud of the fact that the child has taken another step towards charting a new course in life.

The feeling in society that the mother should be around the child all the time is still very important, but a time comes when the child has to move on in life.

The child can also switch between the desire to be among colleagues, in a rich and recreational area with new materials and discoveries, and the fear of the
unknown.

This is when the child obse-rves the attitude of parents to have a reference point on how to behave. The whole family should prepare for the adaptation phase, which can last a few days.

Some tips that will help parents at this stage of the growth of children are:

  • The child should be encouraged to go to school. The family should discuss this with him or her beforehand.
  • The family should avoid long explanations that may generate uncertainty and distrust.
  • It is essential that the child visit the school beforehand and stay there for a while to acclimatise himself or herself.
  • Care must be taken when, for example, offering rewards for going to school;
  • If possible, parents should stay in school during the orientation process. The child should be made aware of the school's guidelines related to the adjustment period.
  • Parents need to understand that crying at the time of separation is very common. It may not mean that your child does not want to stay in school, but maybe it is difficult for him or her to adjust to new surroundings.
  • Similarly, the absence of crying often does not mean he or she is not feeling the separation.
  • Avoid commenting about the child in front of him or her.
  • The child should walk himself when approaching the teacher. It is always hard to leave the lap of someone known.
  • Parents need to encourage the child to stay in the nursery.
  • You must strive to be loving but firm, showing no doubts that he or she will be fine.
  • Parents should go naturally and never sneak out. The child will be very suspicious and insecure with this
    attitude.
  • It is important that parents remember that each child is unique and that the adjustment period will also be unique and individual. Avoid making comparisons between the adjustment of peers or siblings.
  • At home, organise a routine so the child does not feel rushed while leaving for school, making it part of his pleasure;
  • Organise a study space.
  • Combine a study schedule with the sibling (if any).
  • Paying attention to homework is very important for any child. This way, parents can keep tabs on the academic performance of the child.
  • It is useful to keep oneself posted on new discoveries that will improve her cognitive, emotional and social development.